P.S. I Love You

The other day, I posted on Facebook how I dislike the abbreviations “love ya” and, even more so, “luv u”.  And I do.  It’s not just because I’m old (teehee), but because in adults at least, it’s just so damn precious.  I’ve heard the arguments that those phrasings are more “casual”, more like “I love you as a friend, in a non-romantic way”, but when did love become solely romantic, or even need to be defined?

My family and closest friends say “I love you” or just “love you” a lot.  And it doesn’t diminish its value,nor do we need to define its “depth” by abbreviating it.  Somehow, we have fallen into the habit of defining love and “weighting” its importance and value.  And I think we lose something by doing so while at the same time giving certain “types” of love a false gravity that limit it.  Think about the importance we give to the first saying of it in a romantic relationship, and how that might even stop people from actually using the words.

To quote James Joyce:  “Love loves to love love.”  Try it.  Say “I love you” more often with less concern about its gravity.  You’ll be pleased with the result, I bet.  And have fewer regrets.

 

 

N.B.  And please don’t come back at me with the LMM quote about love.  I prefer Joyce’s version.

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