Today, March 5, 2020, the last woman standing suspended her run for President of the United States. After a primary that was the most diverse in history, including four – FOUR – women who would have been excellent at the job, Democrats will be choosing between Joe Biden and Bernie Sanders.
Kamala Harris, Kirsten Gillibrand, Amy Klobuchar, Elizabeth Warren
I was all in for Kamala and with the #KHive from the beginning. I did the research. I pushed back against the attacks, including writing about her here and here. I donated when I could. I still wear the t-shirt. I was devastated when she suspended her campaign. The misygnoir had been obvious.
And yes, the misogyny was obvious when Kirsten was taken to task for what we say we want, believing women (and arguably, Chuck Schumer was far more directly responsible for Franken’s resignation than she). And yes, it was obvious in the attacks on Amy for being a “mean boss” and in the attacks on Elizabeth for essentially being “overprepared”. We all saw and read more of those attacks than I can bear to repeat, so I won’t.
While I believe all of the Democrats have essentially the same concerns (#notyouBernie), I was more closely aligned with other candidates in the race. You may or may not have seen the “quiz” in the Washington Post (which I took on February 21). It asked various questions and then gave you a grid showing where you agreed with each candidate. My “matches”, out of 20 questions, were Biden (15), Bloomberg (15), Buttigieg (14), Klobuchar (14), Warren (7), Sanders (6). (I know that’s not everyone, but you get the picture.)
Then, in the lead-up to Super Tuesday, some were saying that not supporting Warren demonstrated “internalized misogyny”. That if she were a man, everyone would align behind her. That her plans were being discounted based on her gender. And I agree, there are people for whom all of those accusations are true.
But while I understand the sadness, anger, and frustration at Warren’s suspending her run, we should not assume that everyone supporting a male candidate is a misogynist. My left of center/more moderate views are not in line with Warren’s thinking, but that doesn’t mean I don’t want a kick-ass female president, and I would happily have fought for her had she become our nominee. It also doesn’t mean I don’t appreciate what Warren brings to the table, the work she has done, and the work she will continue to do. I also respect and stand behind my friends who supported her, and today I feel their pain.
In fact, all four of these women are awesome and we are lucky they are willing to continue working in government after this primary. Any one of them would have had my support and my vote as our nominee.
As I’ve said, my first choice was Kamala. I didn’t have a second choice, so I decided to wait and see where the base of the party cast their votes in South Carolina and on Super Tuesday. #VoteLikeBlackWomen is more than just a hashtag; it’s a way to recognize the base that is trying to hold this party together and may just save us all from four more years of 45. So I am now supporting Joe Biden. It’s Hobson’s Choice. He is the best of what’s left.
But even if we disagreed on which woman was the best candidate, I think we are all dealing with massive disappointment that none of them are still on the ballot. It sucks. So It’s time to be kind to each other, and also to give each other time to grieve. Then I’ll do what women always have to do. Get back up, dust myself off, and keep fighting. Hopefully with all y’all by my side.